The value of being average.

6 Jan

I’m going to put something out there, and I’m really being quite serious so please don’t try to argue with me to make me feel better. That’s my disclaimer.


In the great big world of fabulous people, I’m not all that smart. I’m not all that pretty. I’m not very good at any sports and nobody would ever call me athletic. I lose at most games. I have bad handwriting. I am not very skilled at any particular hobby or interest.  You can’t call me an artist or a musician or a techie or a trekkie or anything really.  I have nothing of that sort that defines me, and I don’t really excel at pretty much anything.

For a very long time, I thought that meant that I was worthless. So I pushed and pushed and tried and tried to find something that I can do better than others.

What I can do better than others is just be me. And tell awkward jokes that people still laugh at. Try my best to be a thoughtful and caring family member and friend.  Wear funny hats and get really excited about movies that star Channing Tatum or Zac Efron. Dream about vacations and travel plans and take silly pictures of my bunny. Buy ridiculous shoes and be unafraid to wear them. Start shopping for Christmas in July. Love eating breakfast at any time of the day. Watch reruns of The OC on soapnet even though I have all four seasons on dvd right next to me, and still hold my breath right before Summer kisses Seth. Make lots and lots and lots of lists. Be a really not-sore loser and play games with excitement and enthusiasm. Go for walks in the park and drive with the windows down when its cold just to get fresh air. Make sandwiches shaped like dinos. Embarrass Alysha in the middle of the mall. Paint my nails a rainbow of red, green, gold, and sparkles for Christmas.  Do I need to go on?

Who else does that better than me?

Not everyone can be extraordinary. But nobody can be you better than you.

I sometimes think about my friends and all of their talents and skills, and I sometimes wonder if they ever feel the way I feel. Then I think, that is absolutely impossible because they are so wonderful! It’s harder to see your own good qualities than someone else’s.

So, if you want, comment with one thing you appreciate about me, and I’ll comment back with one thing I appreciate about you.



6 Responses to “The value of being average.”

  1. hilary January 6, 2012 at 3:25 pm #

    This is a lovely post. I think we all feel that way. For instance, I take ok photos, and better editing. I will never be a photographer. Also, I’m lazy. In my job, and my life..

    But this is about you right? So I think you are one of the hardest workers I know. And you already know I am jealous of your rack 😉 On a serious note, I also think you’re one of the only other always-honest people I know, and I value that tremendously.

    • sasharoundtheclock January 7, 2012 at 10:34 am #

      I value your honesty too! But it sure does get us in trouble, doesn’t it? I also love how crafty/creative you are. My save the dates turned out way better than I had ever imagined. 🙂 And I think you take amazing photos.

      The other thing that I really appreciate you is how deeply you care/feel for your friends and family. You would always get way more upset about a fight with a friend than anyone else, and I always thought, “Wow, Hilary really cares about people.” I think it says alot about your giving character. 🙂

  2. Shannon January 6, 2012 at 5:20 pm #

    I always valued your honesty and the fact that you are definitely a go-getter, I never understood how you were able to get so much done, I’m way more lazy than you.

    • sasharoundtheclock January 7, 2012 at 10:36 am #

      I always valued how much you value and care for your friends. You were always someone I knew I could count on, and your giving nature really shows that. The way you work hard to keep in touch and send cards and care packages to your far away friends is really cool, and I always feel inspired to try to be a better friend when I read your journal or talk to you.
      I also was always jealous of your amazing brain! You pick things up so fast and learn things so quickly! Whether its Japanese words or being able to quote favorite shows, I was always super impressed!

  3. Nancy K. January 7, 2012 at 4:07 pm #


    I value your loyalty. You are a loyal friend, sister, daughter, wife. Your loyalty shows in how you treat those around you, and how you positively talk about them when they are not around you.

    I also appreciate your patience. I am usually *always* late. I tend to make a big deal out of trivial matters. I’m a failing perfectionist. But you treat me with love and respect and you are patient with me. You (at least act like, hehe) enjoy our time together, and make me feel good when I hang out with you. Probably has to do with fact #1: you are a loyal friend.

    Finally and my favorite of all: You are usually up for anything. You like to try new things: recipes, games, exercises, finger nail polish combinations, crafts, adventures. You are flexible. You make me feel less uptight, more free, a better version of myself.

    I will never be the best at anything either. But thank you for reminding me that I can be the best me.


    • sasharoundtheclock January 8, 2012 at 10:13 am #

      Thank you for your really kind words! I really don’t mind when you run late, you have a one year old, I assume it will happen occasionally. 🙂

      I really appreciate how thoughtful you are, whether its getting a thoughtful card in the mail, remembering birthdays, or just sending uplifting emails or texts. You always have your family and friends in mind and it shows in the way you treat them and care for them.

      I also admire what you call being a “failing perfectionist.” I see it as having the patience and dedication to do something properly, and to stick with things even when they are difficult. It has really inspired me to try harder at things and to put the effort in that people and projects deserve.

      I love your creative spirit, and I love your servant heart and I am thankful to have you as a friend. 🙂

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